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My website and blog moved to a new neighborhood!

I definitely earned the IT klutz of the year award when transferring my website and blog from wordpress.com to wordpress.org.

DrivenToTellStories.com, my new website and blog focuses on the art, craft, and business of storytelling in its many forms. (SashaKildare.com and DreamWalkingtheNovel.com now point to DrivenToTellStories.com.)

Depression, manic depression, addiction/compulsivity, athletic drive, creative drive, and spiritual awakening are some of the themes that I will address through fiction.

Here are the links to the blogs on the new website since I made the transfer:

When I figure out how to, I will shut down sashakildare.wordpress.com! Blog subscriptions (notifications of new posts) don’t transfer. If the new blog/website meets your fancy, you may subscribe to notifications of new posts and my eventual monthly storytelling snitch at DrivenToTellStories.com. Whew!

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U2 2018 “Love is all we have left”

I nearly spat out my Irish Breakfast tea when I read the LA Timesreview of the May 15, 2018 U2 concert I had attended at the Los Angeles Forum.

Music feeds the soul, the heart. It makes you feel. It celebrates the freedom of expression and the power of possibility. The LA Times reviewer over-intellectualized the event.

I saw four masterful musicians on fire, commanding the three connected stages set up so that the band could move from one to the next and play to the entire crowd.

Fearless. Kinesthetic. Urgent. All four musicians transformed their entire bodies into their instruments.

Staging
Imagery that, at times, resembled minimalistic modern art, vintage photographs, and projections of U2’s performance dominated two huge screens. One screen ran the length of the runway stage connecting the other two stages, and the other one sat atop the circular stage in the middle of the arena. Sophisticated engineering allowed all of this, yet did not detract from the simplicity of the staging.

Love Is All We Have Left
Love Is All We Have Leftis the title of one of their new songs. Its six words are exactly a sign of the times and give voice to those who long for social justice. Those few words serve as a reminder of:

  • The power and essence of love
  • Sadness regarding oppression and what has been lost
  • Hope

New Year’s Day
I experienced the concert with my 19-year-old son at my side.

At his age, I heard U2’s New Year’s Day for the first time on KROQ and saw colors. I was not high. I did not hallucinate. Rather, the song prompted colors, auras, in my mind. Rivers of bright colors flowed through my thoughts about halfway through the song, which evoked longing, anticipation, and the giddiness of being in love.


My son and I at U2 concert.

New Year’s Day also represents a far more profound story, the story of the victory of the Polish Solidarity Movement as detailed in this January 2018 article in IrishCentral.

Pride (In The Name of Love)
During their rendition of Pride (In the name of Love), historic images detailing Reverend Dr. Martin Luther King’s civil rights journey displayed on the giant screens. SongFacts details the evolution of the song. The song not only tells the story of Dr. Martin Luther King’s courage and message; it inspires.

Bono quotes. I find one of his quotes comforting exactly now:

“Music can change the world, because it can change people,” Bono.

 

 

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7 types of writing that can help you fight depression or get unstuck

There has been convincing research as to the link between creativity and depression. Vivid imagination without an outlet for its expression can become an ingredient in the recipe for depression.

And… empathy often goes along with creativity. The more empathy you have, the harder it is not to be affected by injustice, unless you use your creativity, even in a small capacity, toward achieving justice for whatever cause to which you are drawn.

Story telling became an outlet for me and has the potential to influence a bit of that injustice. In the meantime, it is fun and one of my tools for keeping my intense imagination from frustrating me and for keeping depression from settling in.

Here are seven other types of writing to help fight depression or get unstuck:

  1. Action Board— Create an action board that lists and illustrates your goals. Action boards are far more specific than vision boards. This Mama’s Corner of the World blog shows a great example of an action board. Achieving your goals: Creating a successful action board from a vision board
  2. Free writing— Feel like screaming? Instead, sit down and write without looking at what you’re writing. Write without editing. Dump everything from your subconscious onto the page. The Artists Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity author Julia Cameron recommends morning pages, three pages of free write first thing in the morning.
  3. Gratitude list— Write down three to five simple things for which you are grateful. Try to do this every day. It shifts your focus and much more as explained in this UC Berkeley article How Gratitude Changes You and Your Brain.

For example… 1) I got home in time to see my favorite TV show. 2) I was able to take a walk in the light rain, and it felt refreshing. 3) I found my favorite sweater I had misplaced in the back of the closet.

You can type your brief list into the notes section of your phone, keep a journal on hand, or simply write them on a scrap of paper.

  1. Journaling — Keeping a journal provides you a safe place to relax and reflect as you write down what’s on your mind. It’s a way to get to know yourself better and learn how to take better care of yourself.

This University of Michigan DepressionToolkit.org entry, What is Journaling? provides details.

  1. Letters never to be delivered — Sometimes when someone greatly upsets you and there is little likelihood of getting through, it helps to write them a letter explaining how and why they upset you and then either toss the letter or destroy it in a ritual, such as going to the beach, ripping it into tiny pieces, and throwing it away into a trashcan there. Or you can write a passionate letter to the universe or to yourself as described in this blog, Write Letters to Heal Pain Release Anger Let Go and Start Living.
  2. “Let it go” box— Rescue an attractive, small box from the recycling heap and write what’s bothering you on a slip of paper and place it in the box to release your fear or anxiety.
  3. SMART goals— When you are feeling down, start with small goals, such as I will work on my short story collection at least 45 minutes a day five days a week for the next month.

SMART is an acronym for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely.

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How empathy can compel you to become a storyteller

Empathy turned Jennifer Lawrence into an actress. During a 2018 60 Minutes segment, Jennifer Lawrence revealed that she had no formal acting training and relies solely on empathy:

During the interview, she further revealed that sensing another’s feelings and letting go of her own identity comes easily to her, allows her to focus, and is tremendously rewarding.

Jennifer Lawrence (from 60 Minutes transcript): … That’s what I crave —that really getting lost into something, being almost possessed by another emotion. That’s the adrenaline rush, that’s the high that I can’t live without.

Lawrence described herself as a poor student, a misfit, and hyperactive in a traditional school setting.

The 60 Minutes segment is just as much a testament to parents who were able to step back and get to know their unconventional child and let her become who she was meant to be.

Unfortunately, so many children’s talents are wasted and their spirits crushed by school systems that subscribe to one size fits all.

But I digress.

Empathy can seem like such a hindrance. It can hurt to constantly sense others’ pain and many other emotions through their body language, facial expression, and notes in their voice.

Writing enables me to release many of those feelings by telling others’ stories. When I write, the characters appear in my thoughts and, at times, acting out premises results in their dialogue. When I get into flow, I experience a rush as well.

Did empathy turn you into a writer or another type of storyteller?

 

 

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Antifa, why oh why?

Trying to learn
Learning to try
Antifa, why oh why?

Inauguration Day 2017, a man dressed in black, his face obscured.
The body of a professional athlete.

SMASH…
Violence

Was he hired by the oppressors to discredit the peaceful protestors?
Antifa claimed him.

Antifa
Why oh why?

But I do know why… alienation, injustice, electronics addiction, immaturity, learned helplessness

Antifa… all that passion, can’t you channel it constructively?
All the youth for whom it will be worse
Much, much worse if the opportunities slowly disappear

Losing our rights though sleight of hand, sleight of law, elitism, and the increasing power of the soulless…

Antifa, don’t hasten the haters
Performance art doesn’t have to include violence….
Mentor those youth who are walking through your pain…


I tend not to finish my poems or much of my fiction. This poem isn’t finished either, but I have been inspired by a fellow blogger (thememoirofawriter.com, Stained) and am posting it anyhow as the image from Inauguration Day 2017 that inspired it has been haunting me for a year.

I am remembering that I did include a few poems in Dream Walking and that I should do the same in Baby Fever its sequel.

Zinzi Clemmons raw, honest, compelling recent novel What we Lose (Guardian review: A debut of haunting fragments) uses one paragraph and one-page chapters to provide rhythm to the story and engage the reader.

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Gritty YA fiction

Not every teen reader can relate to wizards or cheerleaders. Such a Pretty Girl, Rules of Survival, Shelter, and Stealing Heaven deal with gritty themes such as surviving incest, child abuse, and homelessness. Along with providing inspiration, these realistic teen novels offer compelling, streamlined story telling that should appeal to adult readers as well as teach empathy.

Shelter
Beth Cooley’s 2006 Shelter (Delacorte Press) is a reverse Cinderella story. When Lucy’s father dies, overnight she must adjust from living a sheltered upper-middle class lifestyle to living in a shelter with her mother and younger brother. Lucy’s mother has not worked outside the home in years and navigates the maze of finding employment that will get them out of the shelter. Lucy struggles to find friends at her new high school, excel at school to secure a scholarship, comfort her brother, and overcome the pain of the friends who deserted her once the money ran out. At first, Lucy dreams of getting her old life back, but eventually she appreciates her newfound resilience and her new life. Cooley crafts engaging characters and skillfully creates suspense out of the family’s struggle to exit the shelter.

Stealing Heaven
What if you have been brought up to be a high-class thief? If that premise intrigues you, so will Elizabeth Scott’s 2008 Stealing Heaven (Harper Teen). At eighteen, Dani is finally old enough to choose her own destiny. She becomes legally responsible for herself, but eighteen also means that if she were to get caught stealing, she would be charged as an adult and end up with a permanent criminal record.

Nothing dirty, nothing violent, just scamming wealthy people out of their silver summarizes Dani and her mom’s heists. The demands of her mother’s chosen career include constantly moving across the country and creating phony names and identities to go along with each move.

Dani’s fight to find her own identity is further complicated when she meets Greg, a cop, and struggles with keeping up her guard while getting to know him. Ultimately, Dani must choose between Greg and her mother who happens to also be her employer.

Such a Pretty Girl
Laura Weiss’s 2007 Such a Pretty Girl (Pocket Books) masterfully portrays a mother who is a consummate love addict and who idolizes and physically craves her husband to an irrational degree. Her denial is so great that she convinces herself that teenage Meredith, her only child, is to blame for seducing her own father.

When the story begins, Meredith’s father is getting out of prison after three years instead of the nine he was originally sentenced to serve for molesting her. Her mother sold their house to finance an expensive attorney who got his sentence reduced on a technicality. Meredith is terrified. Her mother not only completely dismisses her fears, but also prompts Meredith to help celebrate her father’s return by saying, “I put touches of color in your father’s condo, too. I think he’ll be pleased. Oh, and I took three steaks out to thaw so now is not the time to go into that silly vegetarian kick.”

The suspense builds as fifteen-year-old Meredith fights off depression as she plots to keep herself from getting raped once again by her father.

Rules of Survival
Matthew, the son of a sadistic single mother, narrates Nancy Werlin’s 2006 Rules of Survival (Penguin Group). He is the oldest of four siblings and their protector. The first rule of survival is pretending. Pretending that everything is OK. Pretending that each time you get beaten up will be the last time. Pretending that you are the adult. This novel captured the art of switching gears from fearing for your life to acting as if everything is perfectly OK.

The author captures the slow spiritual awakening of Aunt Bobbie and the father and the world through the eyes of a teenager struggling to keep his spirit from breaking in the face of a troubled, violent parent.

How does a child escape a dangerous parent, stay out of foster care, and keep his siblings together? Staying alive is the first challenge. Keeping his siblings alive is his second challenge. Matthew’s journey is mesmerizing.

Do you know of any other superb gritty YA/teen fiction?

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“Heather the Totality” by Matthew Weiner

Provocative. Evocative. Compelling. Matthew Weiner’s debut novel Heather, the Totality delivers characters who will linger in my imagination for a long time. Characterizations are captured in short, visually stimulating scenes that keep the action moving and the reader reflecting on karma, the many nuances and challenges of parenting, and the pursuit of personal fulfillment.

“Her parents weren’t bad people, but they were living in a self-righteous delusion that they deserved everything they had,” Matthew Weiner, Heather, the Totality.

I can’t remember the last time I was disappointed by a non-fiction book that I read based on a review. I’d say I’m batting less than 1,000 when it comes to fiction I have chosen based on reviews. One best-seller was written from four points of view… that all sounded like the same whiny character.

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